Don Herold said that “Babies are such a nice way to start people.” But how do we know we’re ready to have one?
I attended a christening last weekend. I was very happy to see many little angels around me. All babies are the same, I think. They never fail to amaze me. You look at them for a few minutes and you allow yourself to be under their spell. Completely bewitched. 🙂 Yet despite the joy I feel inside, I was partly sorry seeing the little arms that carry them. Most of the mothers and fathers were teenagers. Ahhhhh…What to do when babies have babies?
The harsh realities of unwanted pregnancies are shocking. A study conducted by the World Bank revealed that the Philippines is among the top 10 countries with an escalating population of teenage mothers. Very alarming. These young kids should be in school – learning a lot of things in the company of friends. They should be having the time of their lives, busy forming their characters. To cut that short or put that special stage in life on hold is still unacceptable to me. I can’t put it together 😦 I can’t imagine how two young people who are still in the process of finding themselves will have all the resources in the world to raise a happy and healthy child. “Making a baby is easy but raising one is not,” as the cliche goes.
Parenting for me is something to prepare oneself to. You don’t just let it happen. You don’t leave it to circumstance. I believe that there is beauty in waiting for the right time to welcome a new life. For that little life will depend on you. In an instant you become its source of everything. When you’re whole already, you make happy little people. But when you’re still broken, what do you make?
I long for the day when I’ll finally be able to hold the hands of my own child. To read stories to him every night. To wave goodbye every time he leaves the house. To cook for him, tuck him to bed, go to church with him and pray, say I love you countless times. To tie his shoe lace…I know I’ll make a great mom. 🙂 Dear little baby, I’m building myself. I’m healing myself. I’ll wait for you no matter what.